SS15 spent the day with his dad's sister, since DH had him leave Sunday night. DH called around 5 to say he was going to be late tonight, since he needed to go see SS. Imagine my surprise when DH and SS came home around 8:30. I wasn't expecting to see SS for several more days, since he leaves for BMs tomorrow.

DH was pissy and rude, but asked me to come into the living room to talk with them. He asked me privately in advance to just sit and listen to what he and SS had to say. He told me to just "agree with it" when I could see that time came in the conversation. I asked him what he was talking about, and he wouldn't give me more info. DH got pissy again when I told him I wasn't agreeing to agree until I heard details, cause I was tired of other people having control over my life and making decisions for me.

SS15 apologized for ruining our dinner party on Sunday and said he was sorry by calling me a b$#%^. After that, DH did most of the talking. He said he spent last night and tonight meeting with SS, and had taken him a book to read about anger management that has calming techniques and assignments. DH told me that he had had to complete 3 assignments from the book before being allowed to come home tonight. THAT'S GREAT and all, but it would have been nice to now...

One of the assignments is to begin to make amends. DH said he and SS agreed SS needs to develop a better relationship with his step-brother, 8- DH and my son. DH plans to take them fishing together next week. DH said he and SS agreed that SS and I need to have a "date" every 2 weeks to spend time catching up and talking to one another. I bet SS loves that! DH said he understands SS has issues with BM, but that was her problem and not his. I stepped in and said it was DH's problem, because as a father it is his repsonsibility to teach his son to respect all women. If looks could kill, I'd be on the floor right about now.

DH also has an appointment to take SS into the city tomorrow to meet with a therapist.

SS said he was done talking now, but would talk more later. DH signaled to him, and SS mumbled "Sorry again, I love you..." and left the room.

DH said he realizes it may feel weird and take time to fix things, and it wouldn't get better over night. DH said he didn't want to talk now, he was going to bed.

This is great and all, but maybe if DH had done all this 2 years ago when SS started getting violent and aggressive it wouldn't still be happening.

however, I will keep an open mind. I'm not totally at the "give up" point yet. I noticed my DH staring at my suitcases near the door from where I came home from a mini-vacation on Sunday and haven't bothered to unpack yet... Maybe that will keep him thinking...