So SD17 hit us up for clothes in July. We discussed it and said 300 is half of what she'll get from us, since her mother should be paying half per court order, and 600 dollars is a reasonable amount for a yearly clothing update. So now she comes back round in October asking for winter clothes money. Now mind you BM doesn't have a job, she finds a way to take the kids on outings and starbucks etc with child support, but god forbid she spend money on stuff they actually need instead the "go ask your father spiel". I personally think that DH supports his ex wife's lifestyle in that he is paying out for things that they clearly made an agreement on and she is spending friviously, dependent on the fact that "daddy should be paying for it" kinda thing. So... seperate issue, DH has panic attacks when he has to say no to his children, so he has almost quite literally been moping in bed for the last day and a half. I am sick of this dynamic, that his children seem to have so much power over him and they most definately know it and use it. Disneyland dad isn't enough anymore, it's dad can I use your car? (even though I don't have insurance, way to pay for gas, or a job). I know if I ask DH to stand his ground, he'll be too scared and I'm scared that I can't handle this situation anymore. Am I asking too much that he take a position on this... or is it something that needs to be let go? I am getting the feeling that in this relationship we are just go round and round about the same issues over and over. Exhasted. And I know it's not just about the clothes.