So for those of you who are familiar with my other blogs, brother back in the hospital AGAIN since last week due to complications with his illness (cystic fibrosis). He's going to be stuck there for at least 2 more weeks. He tried to hide the information from me but I snooped on his facebook comments and found out his FEV's (forced expiratory volume) has drastically dropped from 103 to 55. He has another infection and can't stop coughing up blood, doctors are worried. They are trying to stabilize him to keep his FEV's from dropping any further but there is a big chance he is going to need a double lung transplant. I've read online from CF support groups that you basically have to be almost dead before you get put on an organ waiting list...
I don't think any other of my family knows yet, given my mom's mental state (grandma is still refusing to have her admitted) and the fact that my father just got a new job, I am prepared to take on the role of caregiver for him again. I was his health aid for over 5 years when he was little until he "aged out" of the system, I don't think anyone else can do it and he shouldn't go back to my grandparent's. I know I'm getting WAY ahead of myself since we don't know the outcome for sure, but I need to be prepared. Rich aunt left to go back to her "other house" out of the country without switching over the POA on my mom to myself so I have no idea how this is going to play out.

It's a visitation weekend.

DH didn't pay the IRS and they said if he doesn't pay by Feb 16 they are going to start the process of seizing assets if needed.

Oh, and did I mention that MIL invited herself over this weekend?

No clue why. Oh well. Hoping she can drive DH and SS nutso so I can go visit my brother. Unfortunately ever since my brother opened up to me about his diagnosis, he's no longer responding to my messages so I'm not sure if I have to ambush him at the hospital myself or try and call....but I'm not the parent so they wont' give me any information unless he says so. I just want to give him some snacks if they'll let me, like a little "care package" and spend some time with him so he knows he's not alone in this.

This sucks. I'm not against MIL coming over, I just don't know if I can mentally deal with being her "go-to" and am not sure what she wants...it's never just a visit to see us it's always because she wants something, just "what" is the question. Most of the time it's money, and DH will give it to her even if he doesn't have any to spare. Really hoping that doesn't happen, trying to stay positive but between my mom, brother, and MIL health issues and NOT being able to do anything...its hard. Oh and the FMLA doesn't cover siblings so I have to pray my work will be understanding about me needing time off for my brother. But then again I can't take unpaid time off due to bills...and I don't know if I need to save my PTO if he needs after-care...but if he takes a turn for the worse and I saved my PTO for nothing and have HUGE regret for not spending time with him NOW...

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