Very one-sided. Sneaky suspicion that there's a lot of info we aren't privy to.

What does she mean when she says the new wife doesn't want them getting chatty chatty about things they don't NEED to be chatty chatty about. Is this really an unreasonable request?

And is he really being distant from his son or is that also her perception? Not a lot of detail there, just "less."

Honestly, this could easily be my BM, and God knows that isn't the whole damned story.

Honestly, it sounds like a few adults who ALL need to grow up.

The XW needs to let go and live her new life.
The XH needs to grow a pair of balls and learn from his mistakes.
The CurrentW needs to grow up. She married a cheater. She isn't the kid's parent and don't need to be consulted when the kid's sick.

I wouldn't be including the CW in with parenting discussions anymore than I'd want the cheating XH back.

Kate

I know in my situation the ex calls me "the other woman" who broke up her marriage. When in reality, I came along shortly after they were officially divorced, and this was after a year and a half separation (when she moved out and left him and the kids). I don't trust any person, especially a bitter BM to completely be 100% honest, when there isn't someone who can't fill in the blanks.

If the new wife is concerned with the dynamics, and is asking for boundaries, I don't see anything wrong with that. BM hated having boundaries when DH was adamant they were needed. He set them, and over time, yes, I have had input. No, I do not have his balls. He decided, and we discussed how to implement them. She 'seems to think' that ex H is being controlled by new wife. What if that's because of the dynamic of their relationship when they were together--she decided everything, and he just went along.

Too many variables to make a clear cut opinion.

Cheater or not an ex husband does not NEED to go inside her home nor does he ever NEED to be alone with the ex. He does however need to stay in his son's life. But that should not require his spending "alone" time with his ex.

He does not need to maintain a relationship with his ex. If I were this ex I would not want his cheating ass near me. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

When a couple divorces they are no longer a unit - not even a joint parental unit. They parent from different homes and families. It's better if two parents can have a cordial relationship but it seems to only hurt new families if they try to maintain a close personal relationship.