Hi, I'm new to this group, and almost 4 years into my step-motherhood. My 11 year old step daughter is a little monster. She hurts my feelings and frustrates me on a daily basis and I can't talk to my partner about it because they get defensive and tells me I shouldn't get so upset. I feel alone a lot of the time, and Like I'm not allowed to have feelings about the SD. I love both of the kids, but I don't like who the 11 year old is becoming.