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ChrissyD@29's picture

Here we go smfh, okay so a little bit about me I'm 29 years of age Mother of an 11 year old daughter who is the best thing that has ever happened to me very mature for her age respectful and make the perfect grades in school I did very well raising her myself. Had a lot of doubt because I had her so young 17 but I made it work we been inseparable since the day she was born I'm also a Certified nurses assistant going on 10 years now I've traveled, partied I just live to enjoy the good life that's all I did after my daughters dad and I broke up I dated here and there but never got myself into nothing serious because I couldn't seem to find the right one. Well here we are today April 4th 2020, started dating a guy from my community last year we've know each other all our lives never said anything to one another just know of each other well I didn't really know nothing about this man just that I really liked him and had a crush for a long time never thought in a million years we would be together any who we started talking of course you gotta get to know the person, we talked for about a month he told me everything I was so attracted to him and what really drew me in is now a nightmare from hell his KIDZ I knew he had his kids he told me and I would get to know them over the phone and stuff as well FaceTime all that it all went down hill when I decided to shack up with this man and his kids he had no idea what he's doing he had custody of three little girls the mother gave them up and now he's forced to step up and it's killing me we raised these kids together for a year and it was the worst year of my life they are 6,5 and 2 all they do is cry and tear up my fucking house while he's in the room watching Netflix or playing video games he shuts his kids out literally he pays them kids no mind I want out so bad but he won't leave. Just recently he was incarcerated for unpaid fines everybody in the world excepted me to keep his kids until he got out well I didnt I gave them back to the mother and this bitch gave her kids to child protective services now that he's home again their giving the kids back to us I hate that bitch and him too for allowing her to do this to us his kids are fucking horrible and he neglects then he had no help besides me and I don't really like kids I can't handle his kids they are demons and their little girls so they got him by the balls they talk like 1 year olds can't read write don't know their abc's nothing he don't interact with them nothing why is he fighting for custody when I watch this man neglect his kids for a whole year I was left to do everything put them through school doctors visits crafts story time all while he sleeps works why did I do this to myself I need some advice before I check myself into a mental institution like the mother of his children did I can't believe I put myself in this situation.

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Winterglow's picture

Why didn't you start the eviction process while he was locked up? It isn't too late now (providing his name isn't on the lease/deed). It will take time but it's worth it. I'm not surprised he doesn't want to leave - he has it too good with you.

shamds's picture

evict tenants because of the extent of loss of jobs etc.., i hope that rule isn’t in place. So rags here would likely suggest you make life hell for them at your home so they voluntarily leave

ChrissyD@29's picture

Me too

SteppedOut's picture

Are you still "in a relationship" with this man? Is he sleeping in your bed? Having intimate relations? You haven't really stated, you ended the relationship and he refuses to leave.

If so. STOP. End the relationship. Do NOT take care of his kids. If he "locks himself away from them", call CPS, call the police. Tell them you ended the relationship and he will not leave and he will not take care of his kids. 

Livingoutloud's picture

Call CPS and police. Tell them this man isn't related to you, you are not in a relationship, he neglects his children and wouldn't leave. His children need to be sent to their mom and he needs to go elsewhere 

Winterglow's picture

If all else fails, file for a restraining order (his past should be enough to get you this - it would be perfectly normal for you to be terrified of him given that he's beaten you up in the past - and I seriously doubt that this would be a lie) and get him (and his kids) the hell out of there.