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Will DH ever have this feeling?

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 9:38am

I just dropped my younger son, 23, at a job interview. He moved to DC after college to spread his wings but he's ready to come back to the Midwest. He misses family especially his older brother who is still struggling with his injuries from a car accident. I got emotional after dropping him off. I am so darn proud of him for everything he has done. His father died his 1st semester of college and he bounced back with straight A's. He found a job straight out of college making 65k and now he is making with bonuses closer to 75k. He has 3 interviews in the next month in the Midwest. His high GPA & experience/activities in college gave him a great resume to start with. Couldn't ask for a better kid in every way.

While DH celebrates every time the kids wipe their ass or when SS12 doesnt wet the bed or SD 20 passes a test...not a class, a test. Will he ever feel this way? So proud of a kid who actually did something besides fart without sharting? Will his kids ever make anything of themselves to be truly proud of?

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Siemprematahari's picture

Submitted by Siemprematahari on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 9:45am

Chmmy~ Congrats on a job well done with your 23 year old son. You raised a fine young man who is productive and contributes in a positive way to the world. I don't know if your H will ever feel the way you do, especially if he doesn't have high expectations from his kids because passing a test should be a given and nothing more.

Wishing your son much success!

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 10:04am

Thank you. My kids are a joy to me. SD20 cant keep up at community college so we decided to send her to an accelerated program at a very expensive college. DH said what am I supposed to do tell her no she can't go to college. How bout prove yourself at CC and then move on.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 9:47am

Like the others said, doubtful, but maybe he can look at your son one day and realize what losers he is raising?

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 10:01am

I don't know if he does. My kids are 25 & 23 a project engineer with a master's degree and an actuary. I think he thinks his kids will get to where my kids are. I really dont think so. They had everything handed to them where my kids struggled a little. I was a single mom who worked hard to give them a good life but they never had an iPhone in their life and didnt get smart phonea til they were 18+. SDs have the iphone 11 a week after it comes out.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 10:51am

He won't...and will likely try to find "fault" in her son to prove that his kids are "just as good as her's".

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 10:59am

You are so right. "Well your kids do this or that" is a response I often get to arguing about skid behavior. My kids are adults living on their own so what my kids do doesn't affect our household.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sat, 10/12/2019 - 9:45pm

LOL, yea... formerSO used to give the apple to garbage dump rationalizations too. Like, my 20 year old was living on his own, going to college full time and working almost full time in a hospital. His son was 13 and not using toilet paper... but still found a way to pick that "his son was better" if I ever mentioned anything even remotely not flowers, sunshine and bunnies about his kid that had a negative impact on my or my baby's life. But, you know, remember that time 5 months ago when my son asked to borrow $50 and *gasp* I just gave it to him? 

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/11/2019 - 1:36pm

I have no bios to be proud of so I pour it into SD13 Munchkin. She and I were chatting the other day, and she tells me she is actually excited to get her first job. I told her that its going to be fun, because she gets to talk to peple that she works with, and meets new people and she gets to make her OWN money. Shes so excited.

And then I asked her what college she wants to go to. Without hesitation - "Yale!".

Both my brother and myself worked since 14 for family business and went to college and graduated. My brother paid his own way through to a masters.

I am hoping that all my expectations of achievment and encouragement (plus high standards) are helping her achieve a good life for herself as a strong independant woman. We have to get through the teens first. Whew!

You done good momma. Biggrin