Things couldn't be better at our house lately. SS and I have a great relationship, and we've been getting along fine. And once I decided to disengage from caring about BM's antics, life got even sweeter.

But, every once in awhile, she soooo gets to me, and this time it's not what has been done to me personally. It's about the decisions that she makes that affects SS. I think that she loves her children as much as she can possibly love anyone, and I don't think that she would intentionally hurt SS or his sister. But she doesn't think about how her choices affect them.

Her home is literally a revolving door of men coming in an out, and the kids are around to see every single one of them. They meet all the men that she brings home, and several of them she is seeing simultaneously, not one knowing about the other(s). Many of them aren't exactly stellar individuals (ex-con, ex-con, moocher, idiot, etc.)or their IQ's don't rise above room temperature. The continuous parade of bottom feeders that waltz through the door is astounding. She's been married twice since her and BF split up, and almost walked down the aisle for the 5TH time last year, but the guy wised up and split. She's only 32!!

It just breaks my heart when SS talks about how his mother has brought home yet another guy, and the nicest thing that he can say about them is "at least he's not a criminal." What do you say to that? He's told me that he's embarrassed that his mom dates so many men, and he wishes that she would find a nice guy to be with, like how his dad found someone nice (AWWWW. That made me feel really good.). The entire time that BF and I have been together, she's only dated one man that was even worth anything, and she found a way to ruin that. For SS's sake, I want her to find a nice guy and be happy, and in turn treat him well.

I told SS that sometimes it takes someone a little bit longer to find that special someone, and that when mom isn't looking, he'll fall right into her lap. That's how it happened with BF and I. I also told him that if he ever needed to talk, he could talk to daddy or me, and that we would always make time to listen to his concerns. He's not even 10 years old, and he takes a lot of adult worries upon himself (which is another thing that drives me insane about BM) because she involves him in adult issues. It's taken a lot of effort on BF's and my part to tell him to leave the adult stuff to the adults and just worry about being a kid!

Anyway, back to disengaging from BM's stoopidity! It's so hard sometimes to do so when your skid is hurting, and all you want to do is make things better for him.