Commitment
Is it possible for a father to be just as committed to his children who don't live with him (who he doesn't get to see because BM is a control freak) as to the ones he lives with?
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No, maybe in his heart but
No, maybe in his heart but not in his actions.
It really irks me that BM²
It really irks me that BM² expects SS to have the exact same bond with DH that my kids have even though she refuses to let DH have his visitation with SS.
I completely understand her
I completely understand her wanting DH to be involved in SS's life but to bash me and my 2 children that I have with DH is something DH will not tolerate. She knows DH is an amazing dad even better than her boyfriend but she wants everything done on her terms and refuses to let DH pick up SS. She says because of me posting about her and SS I have proven to her that I cannot be trusted. *eye roll* I posted a pic of SS with my kids big deal! She posted the same picture so I didn't think it was a big deal.
I would hope so. But I think
I would hope so. But I think BMs not letting DH see SS will certainly hinder the quality of life of both father and son. I certainty think it's possible for DH to feel just as much love for SS as he does for his other kids. But he doesn't get many chances to show it.
Maybe DH could start writing to SS and send it by certified mail, so BM has to sign saying it arrived. If she happens to throw the letters out before SS reads them, DH can still build a paper trail to show SS when he's older that he did try many times to reach out to him.
We don't know where she lives
We don't know where she lives and her apartment is in her boyfriends name. All CS paperwork gets sent to her mother's house. I found that out when we went to get a consultation with an attorney. She has moved a couple of times since then.
I'm the scape goat for her to
I'm the scape goat for her to keep SS away. Like I'm abusive or something. I have another SS who I am close to and I've been in his life since he was 4 and his mom has no problem with me or DH or our kids. She does have a problem with BM².
DD asks about SS all the time
DD asks about SS all the time and I wish I could find a way to explain the situation about why she cannot see her brother. I know BM resents the fact that DH has been there for me from day one with both pregnancies but when she was pregnant he left town. I can understand the bitterness from her point of view. He thought she was lying about the pregnancy because she had a history of lying about being pregnant and cheating on DH. She got the reputation as the apartment complex whore while DH was away working his 3 jobs to keep her happy. She threatened to kill DH so he left town. She left town after being asked for a DNA test because she wasn't sure if SS was DH's. DH is starting to get a nonchalant attitude because of all the drama.
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